Guy Time AKA Father Son Time - How we teach our kids to be a husband during all hours of the day!
Against The Grain
As I mentioned in my last post, we do mother son dating and it's awesome! But, I have two boys and I can
only date one of them at a time, so what does my other boy do while I'm on my mother son date? My husband takes the other child out to practice "guy time" appropriately because relationships are so much more than dating! Our soon to be men have to learn how to be in a relationship always, not just when they are with their "soon to be" spouse!
I fear the idea of what guy time is for some men these days so we work to be sure our little men know how real men do guy time. So, I will share Josh (12 yr old son) and Davids (husband) most recent experience during their guy time.
David has been teaching Josh how to curve a bowling ball. So they decided on the bowling alley to free play and practice this skill that I will not even attempt! After the bowling alley they went out to Samuri for dinner. Sounds like normal father son time right? It really is so much more! Here is what my amazing husband does to be sure to set the best husband example ever!!! We say he does him but out-loud!
First and foremost, they do not check out girls, this is not a lesson on"how to be single." A married man, a real man, has no interest in looking at other women in a lustful manner! A man who is married and doing it right, has lost that desire.
Second, they never forget about the woman at home(me)! My husband is really good at always keeping in touch with me, always checking on how I am and always thinking about what he can do to make my life easier. Yes, I know, I am very blessed! So, he is sure to do these things out-loud during guy time!
I try not to intrude on their guy time by asking a ton of specifics but here is how my three hours went while they were gone.
They left around 3:30 pm. I got a call around 4:00 pm. David said, "hey honey, I just wanted to let you know we decided to go bowling, we just got here. I love you."
I got a text message around 4:30 pm that said, "Josh is doing great, wish you were here!" I got a video of Josh bowling at 4:45 pm. (Any messages during this time are done in a manner that Josh sees and hears what is happening.
I got a call around 5:30 pm. "Hey babe, we just left the bowling alley. Josh did so good, I'm so impressed with his spins. Anyways, we are going to get hibachi at samurai, is everything okay at home?"....
Ok can I go off topic for a minute here....as you will read in any other post of mine, I am a momma on a budget! We sneak candy into the movies and attend them when they are only $4 and we do things like split happy meals! All though my husband is newly obsessed with saving saving saving, he did not seem to think through a frugal mind here. My mother son date that occurred earlier on this day cost a total of $24! Awesome right! There guy time ended up cost us....I hope you are sitting....$95!!!! Ok, end rant, please read on....
I get a message around 6:00 pm. "Miss you my love"
I got a call around 6:30 pm. "We are leaving Samuri, do you need anything." "Yes I can get you coffee"
Ok, important side note here.....just two days before this I was picking Josh up from dance and David called and asked if I could pick him up coffee....Joshs dance studio is one SINGLE block from Starbucks. Soooo, and please don't judge me, my response exactly...."But, babe I was going to turn right at the light so if you want coffee I would have to turn left get the coffee then turn right, and your coffee order is hard to explain, its annoying......" He said back, "Just tell them you want the coffee from me and they will just make it." I said, " but then I have to go there and turn and go back the other way...." "He said, ok fine, no problem, I love you." Okay, I guess you can judge me now because that is terrible....I seriously chose to NOT get him coffee at this point and went straight home!
Ok back on track, I just asked my husband for coffee right, and I would have totally understood if chose not to get it! But what does he do, he gets it with no complaint or mention to the past incident of me not getting him coffee! So Josh says to him, "I'm surprised your getting mom coffee after she wouldn't get it for you the other day." David said..."Well, that is just how marriage works. When your wife ask you a question there is only a few proper responses, yes dear, okay honey, no problem, will do...." This apparently led to a ten minute long back and forth of 2 word responses for your wife.... So that was fun for them!
Then I get another call, "Hey honey I just got your coffee I just wanted to make sure there was nothing else you needed before I head home."
They came home and both came straight to me and gave me a hug and kiss.
So....Josh learned to remember your significant other, have fun but in a healthy way and the most important lesson, always give your wife what she wants! No I'm kidding, the lesson he learned there was to never act out of revenge. My husband got me coffee because he loves me and he isn't busy keeping a record of my inadequacies, instead he shows me love no matter what decisions I make! That was the best lesson he learned on this particular trip!
~Laura
